1. Struggling is normal: I cannot tell you why mothers feel the need to lie about their little ones being constant angels, and make you to be the odd one out, but let me assure you, you are not alone. Incessant crying? That feeling of rejection? Relentless tantrums. Tell them bitches I told you to holler, Shut the fuck up, at the top of your lungs. Motherhood is magical, sometimes, but most of the time it's scraping by. Pure and simple. Sometimes it's about surviving the day and if that means putting them to bed early with the evil Walt Disney, so the fuck what? You teach your children to be honest, intelligent, and above all thinkers, and the lack of feminist educational films out there won't be so depressing.
2. Questioning your skills?: totally normal. Fighting with your partner, absolutely. And ladies (or gentlemen) let me tell you, once the dam broke and I found a community of honest parents, they revealed to me I wasn't alone in nearly divorcing my husband while tending to two colicky babies. I try new things, and I fail constantly. My husband and I have an ongoing joke: when something has gone wrong, we laugh and say parenting fail, and high five; we also do the reverse. When my toddler first counted backward from ten, we high fived then too.
3. Have confidence: you are doing a good job. You brought something truly special into this world. Take a moment--now appreciate yourself. You won't wreak of puke and piss for long. It really doesn't last. You will survive potty training and breast feeding, but no, you will never sleep.
